Between ‘Turn Around’ and ‘Try Harder’
That is always the question isn’t it?
During trials and during hard times, we always ask:
Does this mean that this is not the right way to go, or because this thing you pursue is so precious you need to fight hard for it?
I used to pray for the steep and stony road if I am going down a dangerous path. I prayed that things will be put in my path so I know this is not the choice I should be making. That if this was meant for me, make the road downhill and smooth.
Well, these last couple of years my life experiences have changed me.
I believe now that you will have to fight for great destinations. The journey will not be easy. The better it is for you, the harder the road will get.
It is never easy to court that beautiful, hot, athletic, smart, can-cook, full-of-humor, adventurous, stinkin-rich, good-with-kids, responsible, loyal and angel-hearted member of the opposite sex.
You get the point.
This new belief has changed the way I see problems and trials and hardships.
It has given me tremendous strength in difficult times when I am pursuing new great destinations.
I become a stubborn man.
The more I get bombarded with difficulties and problems, the more eager I get to solving it and continue the journey. The harder it gets, the more I become undeterred and focused on the goal.
Obstacles and road blocks have almost felt like signboards saying: “THIS WAY”
The latest of such journey is having The Disco as the new home for Edward Suhadi Productions.
There is so much trouble right from the start: the financing, papers, legals, permits, up to the renovating, constructions, faulty facilities, cash-flow, and disruptions in our workflow.
Many of the problems are not lone incidents. Many of them occured repeatedly and intertwined together. Getting bigger everytime.
Thus I know in my heart: The Disco is a very big deal. A place that will change everything.
There were times when the obstacles were too stressful and mountainous, I still asked myself: “Is this the road to take?”, “Maybe this place is not for me.” – “Maybe I have to slow down a bit.”
But by the end of the day, I know that this *is* the road to take. This is the hard journey to get there.
Yeah but how do I know? When the path gets really steep, how do I answer the question on the title of this post?
You can try this 3 item checklist:
1. The road is hard not because of our incompetence and stupidity.
A lot of people blame everything and everyone for the mess they are in, but deep inside, most of us know that we’re neck deep in some troubles because we dig the hole ourselves: lazyness, fear, dishonesty, ignorance. When you know that you have *really* done your best, then do not fear, and try harder.
2. The road is steep because you want to get higher.
If you’re facing obstacles because you want to get into a new higher level, with more responsibilies, more risk, more impact for the people around you, and not because of pride or ego or selfishness or greed, then do not fear, and try harder.
3. Amidst the storm, you find peace.
The true beacon. The warm heart amidst the storm. The calm voice when you kneel and say your prayers. Even when the stress become almost unbearable, you know deep inside you that this is the right path. It reminds me of this story:
“There once was a king who offered a prize to the artist who would paint the best picture of peace. Many artists tried. The king looked at all the pictures. But therewere only two he really liked, and he had to choose between them.
One picture was of a calm lake. The lake was a perfect mirror for peaceful towering mountains all around it. Overhead was a blue sky with fluffy white clouds. All who saw this picture thought that it was a perfect picture of peace.
The other picture had mountains, too. But these were rugged and bare. Above was an angry sky, from which rain fell and in which lightning played. Down the side of the mountain tumbled a foaming waterfall. This did not look peaceful at all.
But when the king looked closely, he saw behind the waterfall a tiny bush growing in a crack in the rock. In the bush a mother bird had built her nest. There, in the midst of the rush of angry water, sat the mother bird on her nest – in perfect peace.
Which picture do you think won the prize? The king chose the second picture. Do you know why?
“Because,” explained the king, “peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work. Peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still be calm in your heart. That is the real meaning of peace.” “
If you find peace amidst the storm, then do not fear, and try harder.
UPDATE: Erik a friend of mine sent me this link: The Brick Walls. Beautiful.