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"Please Keep The Toilet Clean. Management."
Edward Suhadi comment 0 Comments

When I read that on a piece of paper taped on the wall in a non-public office toilet, I know something is not right.

Because when the ones using the toilet is your own staff, why don’t you just say so? In your weekly meeting perhaps? Or even in a quick email blast to everybody?

Here in our office, I would have just stepped up in front of everyone and yelled, “Hey you dirty bastards, remember your friends are using the toilet too, okay? Keep it clean!”

The piece of paper, for me, signifies a lack of trust, a lack of communication, and a sense of division inside the office. You versus us, instead of we together.

Now imagine the office, is your relationship.

Have you ever need to tell a friend, an outsider about something that you dislike about your partner?

That might be juicy script in a Desperate Housewives episode, but healthy and strong relationships comes from the very first powerful seed: Communication.

Communication in its simplest understanding: You can tell your lifepartner about stuff, and not afraid to be judged, commented, or angered in return.

It’s the beginning of all things that are good in a relationship.

Fears, hates, dreams, dissapointments, aspirations, addictions and weakness. Your mom, her sister in law, the annoying best friend. The toilet seat, the not washing dishes, the too many football watching. Even, and this is often the hardest, about sex.

The couple that can talk to each other is the couple that is strong as a rock. Circumstances maybe hard, challenges are many, and dreams are high, but if we can start talk to each other, nothing is impossible 🙂

Warm wishes,
Edward

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